Soooo, I’m going on a personal level here that makes me super uncomfortable. But, what do they say? Truth is better than fiction?
I’m working on a book where my married heroine is debating having an affair with a man she knew from her childhood. The angel on my shoulder doesn’t want her to do it, because I want her to be an upstanding woman with deep integrity who puts her husband and family first.
The devil on my other shoulder thinks it will make a great side story to an all ready intense book.
So, I dug deep in my gut and examined my own standards to make the decision.
I’ve always said I wouldn’t consider an affair because I would never put my husband in an embarrassing situation. I have far too much respect for him to ever purposefully do that. But this morning, I had a revelation! I not only think and feel that for HIM – I have my own personal reasons for ME!
I come from an abusive past and find it hard to let people close to me. This includes men. I can’t open that door to trust and intimacy without a lot of emotional pushing and pulling. And that is definitely not a one-night fling sort of process.
Back to my heroine. If she feels like I do (and they always do, don’t they?), she wouldn’t have the affair, because she couldn’t be intimate with someone without first trusting them. Since the man knows she’s married, the relationship would be built on dishonesty. That’s a rocky start. The affair would go nowhere and the friendship would certainly end badly. My poor heroine. I don’t want that for her with all the rest of the crap going on in this story. Maybe we’ll stick with sexual tension and not let it progress farther. Let’s see if my personal beliefs come out in this story. If they do, you’ll know the truth about their origin. Shhh. Don’t tell anyone.
Of course, these characters always have minds of their own, so we may find her in a moment of weakness.
We’ll see what happens….
Interesting conundrum. Ultimately, we all screw up at some point or other during our life, and maybe your heroine would grow from the perspective. But sexual tension is fine, as are fantasies. And the guilt she’d feel at pretending her hubby is the other man would cause her enough anxiety 🙂
Anxiety is the whole story from start to finish. Maybe a bit more wouldn’t matter. 😁
I’m intrigued. This is quite a departure from your usual fare. Will it be historical or contemporary? I can’t wait to see how the characters take on their own personalities. We all start with a bit of ourselves but then as you say they develop minds of their own! My best to you.
Historical or contemporary? That’s a loaded question. It’s both, happening at the same time. Now you have me wondering which category I’m going to place it. Hmm. Hope you’re well!
Wow – can’t wait to read. Very well here and hope same is true of you!