Liebster Award

 

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A big thank you to Denise Hammond for honoring me with the coveted Liebster Award. Check out her blog here. We met during the April A to Z Challenge. She blogs, she photographs, she travels…always new and awesome things on her blog…and she’s a fellow Michigander, so we share a deep love for Michigan weather. (That was sarcasm. Do we have a font for that?)

First thing is 11 unknown facts about me, then 11 questions posed by Denise, then my 11 nominees and the 11 questions I pose to them.

11 UNKNOWN THINGS ABOUT ME:

1. I’m a work-a-holic. (That may actually be known to many of you.)

2. I’m right-handed, but I play baseball left-handed.

3. I am a certified nutritionist and a personal trainer.

4. My favorite singer is Paul Rogers from Bad Company.

5. I’m a GREAT cook!

6. I’m an only child and an orphan.

7. I’ve spent approximately ¼ of my life on airplanes, in hotels, and on tour buses.

8. I’m an eternal optimist, unless I’m tired, then I’m sure the world will end in the next thirty minutes.

9. I couldn’t survive a day without creating something.

10. I’m a numbers freak.

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11. Excedrin is my best friend.

11 QUESTIONS FROM DENISE:

1.  If you could receive any award in the world, what would it be? Winning a Pulitzer would be nice, wouldn’t it?

2.  If you could run for any election and win, what would you run for? I wouldn’t like to run for anything; the current political arena is far too nasty for me.

3.  Assuming it is raining for days on end and you are stuck at home, what would you do to wile away the time? Sleep, work on my next novel, cook something, and play dumb games on the computer.

4.  Describe yourself in one word. Tired…Oh, no, wait, you probably mean in general…Organized.

5.  What is the most fun you have ever had?  (keep it clean) In high school, our choir sang at Greenfield Village for a holiday function. When we finished, we spent the whole day running around, goofing off, and laughing like crazy. That was the silliest day ever!

6.  What place to visit is number one on your bucket list? Egypt. I’d love to visit the pyramids.

7.  What food is your ‘guilty pleasure’? It’s a toss-up between chocolate and bacon. Maybe chocolate covered bacon. Yum.

8.  If you could be a character in someone’s novel, which author (living or dead) would you choose? E. B. White – I would love to be the spider in Charlotte’s Web. She was wise beyond her years and had the patience of a saint.

9.  The beach or the mountains for vacation? I work a lot at resorts and on cruise ships, so MY vacation is definitely the mountains.

10.  If you could own any car, what would you drive? A two-door black Jaguar with the little kitty emblem on the hood.

11.  I stated in a previous blog that if I won the lottery I would buy an Aston Martin DB9 (I’m drooling right now).  What would you ‘splurge’ on if you won the lottery? I’d hire a cook. I love fresh, homemade, wholesome food, but don’t always have the time to put it together.

MY 11 NOMINEES:

Miss Samantha Jill 

Bottled Worder

Explore Newness

Dadicus Grinch

Wiley’s Wisdom

Author Angie Skelhorn

A Hundred Years Ago

Ellis Nelson

John W. Howell

11 QUESTIONS FOR THOSE WHO ACCEPT THIS AWARD:

1. If you could do anything right now, what would it be?

2. Why aren’t you doing it?

3. What’s your favorite band or favorite song?

4. Are you a people person?

5. What was your very first job?

6. Where was the best place you ever visited?

7. If they offered free trips to the moon, would you go?

8. PB&J or BLT?

9. What one thing reminds you of high school? (good or bad)

10. What will you be doing 20 years from now?

11. What do you hope will be mentioned in your eulogy?

Wednesday Writer’s Corner – May 15, 20something

Wednesday Writer’s Corner

Disclaimer:

I’m a little bitchy today, so I’m standing on my soapbox with a noose around my neck.

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Here are my favorite questions from self-published authors on an ebook forum:

How do I get reviews? Why isn’t my book selling? How do I get paid? What should I charge for my book? How can I get a bad review removed? How long will it take to get an agent to notice me?

Are you kidding?

I’ll just be blunt. You have not done your homework. You should stop writing immediately, sell your computer, and take up needlepoint. How many books have you bought on self-publishing? Have you had anyone proofread your blurb? How many articles have you read on marketing? Formatting? Cover Design? Let me guess. Zero.

All right…I’ll give you the short soapbox answers:

How do I get reviews? Sell books.

Why isn’t my book selling? You have no reviews.

How do I get paid? Get a real job.

What should I charge for my book? Doesn’t matter, no one’s buying it anyway.

How can I get a bad review removed? I thought you wanted reviews.

How long will it take to get an agent to notice me? Forever. Like I said, get a real job.

Julia Ward Howe – shaping words

“Arise all women who have hearts, whether your baptism be of water or of tears! Say firmly: Our husbands shall not come to us reeking of carnage for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy, and patience…
“We, the women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.
From the bosom of a devastated Earth a voice goes up with our own. It says: “Disarm! Disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance of justice.” Blood does not wipe out dishonor, Nor violence indicate possession…”
— Julia Ward Howe, “Mother’s Day for Peace Proclamation,” 1870

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Howe also wrote “The Battle Hymn of the Republic” in 1861, which seems to me a lot less pro-peace than the above piece. Perhaps the carnage of the Civil War softened her a bit.

“Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord. He is trampling out the vintage where the grapes of wrath are stored. He hath loosed the fateful lightning of His terrible swift sword. His truth is marching on.

Glory, glory, hallelujah, his truth is marching on.”

November 18, 1861, of the writing of the lyrics, Howe remembered:

“I went to bed that night as usual, and slept, according to my wont, quite soundly. I awoke in the gray of the morning twilight; and as I lay waiting for the dawn, the long lines of the desired poem began to twine themselves in my mind. Having thought out all the stanzas, I said to myself, ‘I must get up and write these verses down, lest I fall asleep again and forget them.’ So, with a sudden effort, I sprang out of bed, and found in the dimness an old stump of a pen which I remembered to have used the day before. I scrawled the verses almost without looking at the paper.”

Monday Music Lesson – May 13, 2013

Monday Music Lesson

Confidence: The state of being certain that the chosen course of action is the correct one and the outcome will be positive.

 

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The name of the game is confidence—not only in performance, but in all of life. Do you know why Victoria Secret models are awesome? Because they exude confidence.  Have you ever witnessed a business man in a suit strutting into a room, walking with determination, smiling at others as he passes? Confidence. You watch him and wonder if you will ever be that cool. You already are. Sit up straight, walk with good posture, dress nicely, hold your head high and look around you, smile at people. Confidence.

Now, apply that to your next performance or meeting or trip to the grocery store. Watch the reactions of people around you. They actually stare at you. Cool, huh?

The number one rule of confidence: Be Prepared.

For you music majors, this means practice, practice, practice. Do the work now so when it’s time to shine, you will. Luck has nothing to do with it. Being cool has nothing to do with it. It’s all about being prepared. Then you can wow them with your talent and your confidence.

Monday Music Lesson – May 6, 2013

I’ve been a professional musician for mumble mumble years, so I thought it would be fun to write a post or two on music. Some will be about actual music, some about performance, some about my personal experiences in the business, most will be sarcastic and jaded. If you are a musician, enjoy.  If you know a musician, send them over. If you’re not a musician, maybe you’ll gain a bit of insight into the business that is music.

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This post is titled: The Guys in the Band vs. The Bar Owners.

I can’t say this enough. Be loyal to your musician friends–ALWAYS.

I’ve played in clubs for years, and all the clubs I’ve played in are now gone. Clubs have a shelf-life of 8-ish years. Bars come and go, bar owners come and go, bar managers come and go, but guess what? I’m still working with the same fabulous musicians I started my career with decades ago. If a club owner offers to bring you back to the club as a solo, because he doesn’t like your band, tell him to go fly a kite. DON’T DO IT! In a few years his bar will be closed, and you will be out of work and will not get any other gigs because you screwed your comrades. Be loyal to your band members. Be loyal to your musician friends. The music business is tighter and gossipier (newly created word) than any other business. If you do something unscrupulous, word will travel faster than triplets in 4/4 time at 300 bpm. (I’ll explain that to non-musicians at a later date, but trust me, it’s really, really fast.)

It’s difficult if not impossible in the small music community to rebuild your reputation. The music business is all about who you know and what you’ve done in the past–good or bad. It’s all about picking up the phone and finding a gig for the second week of June. Bar owners are not going to help you do that. The bass player you used to work with four years ago will be the one who hooks you up. Play good. Play nice.

Loyalty is as important as talent.

A to Z Challenge – Y is for You’uns

Y is for You’uns and other redneck slang…

You’uns – the plural of Y’all

Young’uns – young people/children

Aim to – Plan to, as in “I aim to go to the store later.”

Fixin’ to – preparing, as in “I’m fixin’ to go to the store.”

Worsh – Wash

Crick – Creek

Holler – Hollow

Yonder – Somewhere else.

Jeet? – Did you eat?

Used ta could – Used to be able to.

Lick – a negative amount as in “I didn’t get a lick of sleep last night.”

High Cotton – wealth

Hankerin’ – Craving

Britches – pants

Sugar – affection

Hadn’t oughta – should not have, as in “She hadn’t oughta said those things.”

Gussied up – dressed up

Piddlin’ around – wasting time

Piddlin’ – a small amount

Kin – family

Reckon – suppose, as in “I reckon I’ll see you later.”

Ugly – mean, as in “Stop acting ugly.”

There are tons more. Add your own iffen yer so obliged.

A to Z Challenge – V is for Versatile Blogger Award

V is for Versatile Blogger Award

This couldn’t have come on a better day. Yay for V!

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Yay!!! I love these things. Thank you so much for nominating me, Will!  Check out his blog HERE! He is a university student and an up and coming young author.

All right, seven things about me you don’t already know…

1) I hate the sound of an ironing board opening and the blinding sideways sun in the morning. Ugh.

2) Chocolate is the best part of the day.

3) I am an only child.

4) My bucket list consists of 3 things: going to Aruba, buying a grand piano, and seeing the pyramids. I’ve yet to see the pyramids.

5) I’m convinced I’m going to die in my 50s…better get to Egypt pretty soon.

6) I’ve visited 35 states.

7) I went on a snow-train trip through a canyon in Canada one winter. It was white.

In the spirit of the award, my diverse and versatile nominees are…

Mama Bear – I’m just amazed she signed up for “A Post a Day 2013” and is actually doing it. Go over and give her some encouragement.

Denise – Her blog is like going on vacation without leaving the comfort of your couch.

P.C. Zick – Fabulous author currently on a virtual book tour. Hurry over there and catch up with her. And don’t forget to pick up her new book Trails In The Sand. I’m reading it now. LOVE it!

That’s all I have time for at the moment. I may come back and add a few more folks later.

A to Z Challenge – S is for Slavery

S is for Slavery

That title may have raised a few eyebrows, and I apologize. With my recent genealogy research, I have been thinking a lot lately about slavery. Not as in bad or good, or as in a concept of the past, but as in the actual people involved in the process—the slaves and the owners and their lives and relationships.

My family hails from the south—All Of Them. We’ve been in NC, TN, MS and AL since the 1600s. I think all but one of my greats, 2nd greats, and 3rd greats were born and raised in the south. And just like the majority of southern farmers, nearly all of my family owned slaves until 1863ish. What got me thinking about the topic in depth was recently finding a 1750 will of a grandfather who owned 800 acres and left at least 40 slaves to his descendants. 40? What a major financial investment and responsibility that was.

I also have other family history:

…a 3rd great grandfather who gave his slave 80 acres following the emancipation, and his descendants still live on that land to this day, next door to the grandfather’s descendants.

…a great uncle who sold his farm in 1865 to a black man named Tom Stennis. Later I found that this was a former slave of Adam T. Stennis, who bought my 4th great grandfather’s land in 1869.

…that same 4th great grandfather had $8000 of wealth in land and farming equipment in 1860—and had 13 slaves. Generally, a slave would sell for $1000 or more at an auction, so this was not a cheap or frivolous purchase. He was well-to-do with $8000 of land and livestock, but he had most of his wealth tied up in $13,000+ worth of slaves. Those are 1860 prices. I looked it up on http://www.measuringworth.com/uscompare/ and found the relative value of $13,000 in 1860 is up to $45 MILLION today. Holy Cow!

I am not negating the abuse of slaves at the time nor the emotional attachment people of today have to this issue. This is not a debate on whether slavery was good or bad. As intelligent human beings, we can all agree it was/is bad. I am, however, finding more and more evidence that the white plantation owners took good care of their slaves following the emancipation. So, that’s what got me thinking about it…on a human level.

If you own livestock, you probably don’t love them, but you do recognize your responsibility to feed them and take care of them. If you own something rare and valuable like a sports car, you would take very good care of it. If you are from the south, you have a greater sense of responsibility toward your neighbors and community than anywhere I’ve seen on this planet. Everyone knows the kindness and compassion of southerners is unsurpassed.

Now, if the government takes away your ability to make a living, as it did to plantation owners by taking the slaves away, what are you going to do? Easy, you get another job. But what if that action involves 40 people who work for you and depend on you? These were not employees who you hand a pink slip and send on their way. They are your property. Don’t you have a moral obligation to take care of the people in your charge, whether they were birthed or bought? When the slaves were legally freed, where could they go? What could they do?

The most logical idea I thought of was to give them 40 acres in exchange for them still working on your farm. That would help you maintain your income, while at the same time, helping them become free.

I’m wondering if Alex Haley’s “Roots” dug so deep in our collective conscious, that it created in us a mindset that all slave owners were evil, abusive tyrants. Perhaps they were, but I’m finding a lot of evidence to the contrary. This whole issue is swimming around in my head, so please comment if you have thoughts.

A to Z Challenge – O is for Origami Owl

Blogging from A to Z April 2013 Challenge

O is for Origami Owl – I should get double points for that.

This is my new favorite thing. It’s jewelry. Guys! Don’t turn away here. It’s cute, it’s inexpensive, it’s online, she’ll love it.

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You must purchase a locket. You may also want to purchase a chain, an inside disc for the locket, and a charm to hang off the chain. But here’s the best part. The charms that go inside the locket are generally $5. You can’t beat that price. It’s so affordable, you can change charms and styles on a whim.

I wanted one for myself but couldn’t decide on charms, so I bought one for my daughter instead. I know what she likes. I got a T for her boyfriend’s name, a dog for her puppy, an apple because she’s a teacher, a D and Z for her Delta Zeta sorority, and a few other cute things. I also got a heart-shaped charm to hang off the chain. That’s for her momma’s love. Awwww.

Sooooo cute!!

Click here to check out their site.

A to Z Challenge – E is for eBook

Blogging from A to Z April 2013 Challenge 

E is for eBook

The invention of Nooks and Kindles has transformed my little universe. First, I don’t have boxes and boxes and shelves and shelves of books that I don’t really want anymore but can’t seem to part with. My books are now in a handy and convenient electronic device. I really think digital print is one of the best inventions ever. I do however miss thumbing through the pages of a real book on occasion, but not very often. Second, the cost of books has come way down since ePublishing. Third, I can obtain a book instantly through my computer from the comfort of my couch. Fourth, the ease of publishing an eBook has opened up the market to a plethora of talented writers, instead of the handful the big publishers tell us we are supposed to read. Fifth, you don’t even need to buy a Nook or Kindle. The apps are available for FREE for just about every electronic device. Not too many downsides there.

Fast forward twenty years.

Do you think the children of today will ever thumb through a real paper book? The possibilities of multi-media integration are endless, and I’m really disappointed it has not already come into fruition. Imagine sitting in 5th-grade biology and reading about the human heart. You could click on the picture and the whole circulatory system would come to life, showing you how the blood pumps, where it goes, and what happens when arteries get clogged. How about sitting in history class and clicking on a link that takes you to History Channel-esque story about the pyramids or the Aztecs? You could actually watch a CGI version of Washington crossing the Delaware. If I had half the technology savvy of my imagination, I would have already turned this idea into a living creature, but alas, I do not. In my imaginary world, schools, career training, and the text books that go with them, would all be amazingly different. There are a few companies putting out books resembling this idea, but they are in their infancy, and are light-years away from the future I imagine.

Here’s to the eBook and to the future!